Jackson County DHR in an uproar - The Daily Sentinel: News: Citizens, including retired DHR workers, took exception to alleged claims of children being unsafe through the Jackson County Department of Hu…
This made me sick & absolutely panicked! Just because paperwork isn't done it doesn't mean kids are safe! If I took the time to do the paperwork THEN kids wouldn't be safe because I would spend my 50 hours doing paperwork. I can never win. NEVER, NEVER, NEVER win! Kick a broke CPS worker when they're done. Wait, I'm always down, I can't think of a time lately I was up, and then I was being punched instead of kicked. GREAT.
Friday, April 20, 2012
Thursday, April 12, 2012
my "career" & how society perceives women
No one ever said they wanted to grow up, be broke, miserable & tired nearly EVERYDAY. Why do we (CPS) do what we do? Not for the money, not for the impact we have on lives, so why? Help me figure this out?
If I were a man I would get kudos for doing anything I had to & sacrificing anything & everything to provide for my children. But as a woman, society sends a message that I am putting my "career" first and missing out on my children's lives. That sucks. That makes me sad too. On top of every other emotion I'm starting to cave, think they're right & feel horribly guilty.
If I were a man I'd most likely make more money and be viewed in a positive, if not downright glorious light. But I'm not, I'm broke & crushed. So this is my short rant about how society views my "career" and commitment to protecting children. If I was a male, say an architect, fisherman or carpenter, I would be applauded by society for doing whatever I had to do to put food on the table. But when I spend hours & hours attached to this computer or in the community interviewing & intervening with other families and children it is not viewed as doing what I have to do to put food on the table. It's viewed as "career first, family second". I don't know why that is, I'm not out there for "fun" it's for a paycheck (oh yeah, initially I started to help families and protect children) to feed, clothe and shelter my children. Oh yeah, and all I'll probably die paying off those student loans. It's f*cked up that society still views men & women this way, it's 2012 & while I will never receive praise or thanks (or a F*UCKING raise!) as a CPS SW, it would be nice to receive acknowledgement for being a single mom to a couple kids, who BTW, never gets court ordered child support from baby daddy. Imagine if it was a single dad of even just one kid, who had full custody, no child support & worked crazy OT? He would be applauded & have women throwing themselves at him for being such a "hero", "good guy" who does what he has to. No one would try to make him feel guilty or like his priorities were backwards. Really, can't I ever get a f*cking break? Please?
Oh yeah, my job is probably one of the most dangerous jobs! Way more dangerous than any of the "masculine" jobs!! When was the last time you heard of a carpenter, engineer, etc getting a death threat by some nut job??? You don't!!! I get death threats on a regular basis. I guess that is why I"m career obsessed! For the money, the glory & the kudos! Funny...
If I were a man I would get kudos for doing anything I had to & sacrificing anything & everything to provide for my children. But as a woman, society sends a message that I am putting my "career" first and missing out on my children's lives. That sucks. That makes me sad too. On top of every other emotion I'm starting to cave, think they're right & feel horribly guilty.
If I were a man I'd most likely make more money and be viewed in a positive, if not downright glorious light. But I'm not, I'm broke & crushed. So this is my short rant about how society views my "career" and commitment to protecting children. If I was a male, say an architect, fisherman or carpenter, I would be applauded by society for doing whatever I had to do to put food on the table. But when I spend hours & hours attached to this computer or in the community interviewing & intervening with other families and children it is not viewed as doing what I have to do to put food on the table. It's viewed as "career first, family second". I don't know why that is, I'm not out there for "fun" it's for a paycheck (oh yeah, initially I started to help families and protect children) to feed, clothe and shelter my children. Oh yeah, and all I'll probably die paying off those student loans. It's f*cked up that society still views men & women this way, it's 2012 & while I will never receive praise or thanks (or a F*UCKING raise!) as a CPS SW, it would be nice to receive acknowledgement for being a single mom to a couple kids, who BTW, never gets court ordered child support from baby daddy. Imagine if it was a single dad of even just one kid, who had full custody, no child support & worked crazy OT? He would be applauded & have women throwing themselves at him for being such a "hero", "good guy" who does what he has to. No one would try to make him feel guilty or like his priorities were backwards. Really, can't I ever get a f*cking break? Please?
Oh yeah, my job is probably one of the most dangerous jobs! Way more dangerous than any of the "masculine" jobs!! When was the last time you heard of a carpenter, engineer, etc getting a death threat by some nut job??? You don't!!! I get death threats on a regular basis. I guess that is why I"m career obsessed! For the money, the glory & the kudos! Funny...
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)